So one he is through the door and is sitting comfortably in an uncomfortable way. The therapist will help him find a way to talk about himself. Some men approach therapy with the idea of needing to be fixed as if in someway there brain is broken. That is exactly how some men feel when they struggle with there emotions or have been unable to process and experience or trauma; they feel broken!
They feel broken because they feel let down by their emotions and they want to fix that or remove feeling emotional at all. The therapist at this stage not only needs to contain the mans shame at being in therapy in the place but giving them a gentle introduction into what emotions are, how they work, the affects they have and how he is using them. Often most men find this a relief. It is as though they have finally been given permission to acknowledge they are not ok.
